25 dating deal breakers and how to spot them
What I'm saying is that we don't have to date someone exactly the same as us, to me that would get boring after awhile. We all get needy, but there's a limit of my patience for this. I wrote my profile specifically to discourage women from contacting me if they don't fit what I want.For example: I'm into model railroading, but I wouldn't expect a lady share that interest. I have a job and a car, so you need to have those too. It's much simpler to have people deselect themselves. But some other things are not so obvious, and this is where it gets tricky. I have to make it clear that my query is not at all what the specific deal breakers might be....cannot stress that strongly enough.Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.Also, to spot potential problems earlier, look at her family of origin for instability and problems with neglect or abuse.
Have you heard of the type of woman who is religious and wants a strong man to submit to? "The Surrendered Wife : A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with Your Man" by Laura Doyle.If you're looking for a man, that's really gonna narrow it down I have allergies - no fuzzy pets (which eliminates about 90% of people here I see), nobody who thinks she's a princess waiting for her prince. I'm certainly not going to have kids to please someone, and why should someone who has their heart set on children have to give that up for me? I'm astonished at the number of MEN who need to be 'cherished' and 'pedestaled' to death..what quantifies such needs for them; lest we mention the double-standard variables which go, unmentioned, until they become gruesomely obvious?These so-called 'manly men' become almost feminine and patsy-ish to me upon these revelations.A borderline person is so afraid of abandonment, that the trust really isn't there, and when they flip-flop on you, then the respect is lost, too.
If you think you could fill a traditional role with someone, I would get to know them well and communicate about this before getting too attached to her, so you could look for the fear of abandonment, and low self-esteem that characterizes a borderline person.Profiles that state, "looking for someone fun", but they don't bother to put anything else in their profiles as to what kind of fun they are looking for, their interests, hobbies, etc. I wish more guys would narrow it down a bit in their profiles. I'm a pretty independent gal and I don't mind planning a date. However, if a woman has -a- cat, and says you must love cats -- that's going too far and a bit weird.